One thing I learned very quickly after becoming a mom and being thrust into adulthood is that grownups talk about boring things! All moms seem to talk about are Brayson's sleeping habits or planning Ryleigh's birthday. It all feels like a game of waiting for the other person to stop saying her boring whine so you can jump in with your boring whine. When I walk away from hangouts like that, I kind of feel like it was a waste of time. There's a place for asking each for advice and there's probably a place for venting steam, but I want my conversations to be life-giving. And one thing I've learned about myself is that I'm just not intrinsically awesome enough to make life-giving conversations happen on their own.
First, I need to ask God to make my conversations full of richness and joy. Secondly, if I am constantly fillling myself up with truth and good things, I'm more likely to have something to contribute to a conversation. Third, if I want to help a directionless conversation become more meaningful, I should have some questions ready.
So here's a handful! I even made a free printable. Cut them out, throw em in a cup, and ask each other!
What is one of your greatest aspirations?
Tell me your story. Who are you and what are you about?
What time in history is most interesting to you? Why?
What do you do to deal with suffering?
What do you think the purpose of life is? What leads you to that perspective?
What are some songs that mean a lot to you?
What do you tend to daydream about?
[If they have tattoos]: What's the story behind it? [If not]: If you were to get a tattoo, what would it be and why?
What is one of the strongest relationships you've ever had?
What do you like about the way your parents raised you, and what would you do differently?
Are there any skills that you think you might be good at if you had the chance to try them?
I’m a [your religion here.] Is there anything you would like to know about my beliefs?
What is the most amazing thing you’ve ever seen in nature?
What’s the most beautiful thing you’ve seen/tasted/heard lately? (Follow-up discussion Psalm 8, Psalm 19, Psalm 104, Job 38-42)
What is your favorite miracle that Jesus did? Why?
What are some things that tend to stoke your love for Jesus when your passion feels stale?
What do you think the difference is between childishness and childlikeness?
Is there anything that following Jesus has cost you? What have you gained? (Mark 10:29)
Are there any particular psalms that have comforted you in hard times?
Remember that listening is the most important!
And remember, these are deep questions. They will make people think, probably (hopefully!) about some things they haven't thought about in awhile, maybe never. So your friend's answers are probably going to be unpolished...and you know what? If they turn the question back to you, chances are you're going to stumble over your words and say something kind of stupid too! But that's okay. Loving others right in the middle of their imperfection is beautiful.
Side note: That picture was from my lovely time in North Africa. Conversation was valued there a lot more than it is here, and I went to bed feeling so full from hearing the stories and perspectives of new friends. Other cultures have a lot to teach us about things like this!
Here's a PDF of the conversation questions! Feel free to add your own in the comments! :)
I know I've gotten a little printable-happy lately, but I LOVE designing things! :) Let me know if you're using these and how I can improve them. As always, it's all free because I'm making these for myself anyways and figured I would just share!
I print these out and keep them in my homeschool planner along with whatever projects we want to work on for the week.
Minimalist Homeschool Planner
Later I hope to share what we're doing for homeschool after I have a better feel for all my curricula (since I tried some new things this year and I don't want to recommend it unless I know I love it.) But till then, here's how I plan our week AND record our progress. I don't have to plan ahead for the year, I don't have to stress about whether we actually accomplished anything (even if we are taking an unschooling approach for most of the week.)
Let me know if you think there's a better way I can set this up, but so far it's working magically for me!
Here's the PDF!
Reading Rewards Chart
This summer, my son participated in two of our library's reading programs. After we logged 24 hours of reading, he returned to the library and received free pins for a lanyard, a free arm sleeve, a free backpack, free sunglasses, and two free tickets to a baseball game! It's hard for him to stay motivated to read, but this program was an absolute delight for him.
So, when it was over, I decided to make my own program. One point for every time we spend 20 minutes reading together, 3 points every time he reads on his own. NOTE: I expect him to read anyway; I am not paying him to do school. He will be disciplined if he does not participate in school. But this is a little bonus reward :) Also, I choose the rewards on my own terms...except for the last book, which he gets to choose on his own.
I hope this helpful to you too. Here's the PDF :)
Also on my homeschool clipboard, I print out whatever recipes we'll be making, and I drag any relevant Pins onto a document and print it out as reference. I do NOT need to be on my phone when trying to tell me kids instructions; I'm already on it way too much as it is.
Hopefully this was helpful! Feel free to share! :) (But give me cred, if you don't mind! @RecoveringWomanhood)
Howdy everyone! I made some scripture wallpapers using some graphics I downloaded from Creative Market awhile ago. Feel free to download them and set them as your phone wallpaper too. Send me scriptures and I'll make them into wallpapers with some other patterns I have up my sleeves! Let me know how it works on your phone! I used an iPhone 6S template but I have the X and it worked fine. :) God's Word is amazing!
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My name is Hope.
I'm 25, married to a former skater dude, and raising little people ages 5, 3, 1, and not-yet-born. I like lime green and sarsaparilla, and I wear my Crocs until they melt. (Florida problems.)
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